CYBER SPIRITUAL ABUSE IN THE CHRISTIAN COMMUNITY

Beloved, do not fall preys of unpredictable attacks from dissembling Cyber Spiritual abusers cliques in the web networking  Christian community of today with a disguised nature and abilities, manipulative and controlling, insidious characters which purpose is to erode confidence and determination of  the faith of unsuspecting victims. The abuser often will squelch an idea or suggestion just by a single comment and create a mob as in Acts 17:5[ But other Jews were jealous; so they rounded up some bad characters from the market-place, formed a mob and started a riot in the city. They rushed to Jason’s house in search of Paul and Silas in order to bring them out to the crowd] to escalate a classic form of abuse by threatening, name-calling to have a devastating effect on your self esteem to know Christ or stop your ministry of help & healing through the web medium. It is not God’s will for you to be in any abusive relationship for its not Christ-like behaviour. Be alert for by their fruits & attitude you will know them, as the Bible clearly warns us about the dangers of an angry man in Proverbs 22:24 [ “Do not associate with a man given to anger; or go with a hot-tempered man.”] and Proverbs 29:22 [ “An angry man stirs up strife, and a hot-tempered man abounds in transgression.”] Jesus taught us to confront the abuser in Matt.18:15-20[ ‘If your brother or sister sins, go and point out their fault, just between the two of you. If they listen to you, you have won them over. But if they will not listen, take one or two others along, so that “every matter may be established by the testimony of two or three witnesses. ”If they still refuse to listen, tell it to the church; and if they refuse to listen even to the church, treat them as you would a pagan or a tax collector. ‘Truly I tell you, whatever you bind on earth will be bound in heaven, and whatever you loose on earth will be loosed in heaven. ‘Again, truly I tell you that if two of you on earth agree about anything they ask for, it will be done for them by my Father in heaven. For where two or three gather in my name, there am I with them.’] and the goal is to break through their denial and lovingly restore them with the spirit of gentleness as Gal.6:1[Brothers and sisters, if someone is caught in a sin, you who live by the Spirit should restore that person gently. But watch yourselves, or you also may be tempted]

 

Beloved do not be discouraged as we have been forewarned in Titus 1:9-11[He must hold firmly to the trustworthy message as it has been taught, so that he can encourage others by sound doctrine and refute those who oppose it. For there are many rebellious people, full of meaningless talk and deception, especially those of the circumcision group. They must be silenced, because they are disrupting whole households by teaching things they ought not to teach—and that for the sake of dishonest gain] to be firmly steadfast and be encouraged in your faith with the word of God for it will give you rest and extinguish them from you as Hebrews 4:11-13(NIVUK)…..Let us, therefore, make every effort to enter that rest, so that no one will perish by following their example of disobedience. For the word of God is alive and active. Sharper than any double-edged sword, it penetrates even to dividing soul and spirit, joints and marrow; it judges the thoughts and attitudes of the heart. Nothing in all creation is hidden from God’s sight. Everything is uncovered and laid bare before the eyes of him to whom we must give account in our daily living and ministry work… Shalom!

                                        By Rev Sophy Wahab  (c) 6/10/2012

Barriers that prevent victims from leaving their abuser, with Reflection on Biblical Principle on abuse and how to deal with an abuser and seek help from abuse

Beloved, seek help and do not be The victim of domestic violence that is trapped or faces barriers that prevent them from leaving their abuser, nor seeking redress and has led many stabbed and killed. These barriers are 

- Fear of physical harm, threats, harassment, making abuser angrier, living alone or being alone, losing children, losing house or car, others will blame you, the unknown, financial problems without him, a change in standard of living, deportation, no one believes you,the court system. 
- Love ....Still loves the abuser, Commitment to the relationship, Sex, affection, and kindness during non violence times, Companionship, History together, Hope of improvement or change, Emotional,Low self-esteem, emotionally exhausted
Loneliness, Guilt, Self-blame for the abuse, Feeling like a failure, Feeling defective
Feeling unwanted by others
- Change- Not wanting a divorce, to be a single parent, to look for someone else, to leave pets, to grieve, to start over, to change life style, to lose his family & to be excluded from social functions
- Abuser Uses mind games, crying, threats of suicide, his power and his family's power, Mr. Nice Guy image, unfulfilled promises, apologies, Children, Pressure from children who want their dad, Believes it is best for children, Custody issues, Need childcare, Support, Nowhere to go, Unaware help is available, No support system
Isolated from support, Needs, Need insurance, Need financial support, Have health/disability issues
- More barrier like
Not identifying abuse
Normalize abusive behaviors
Abusive cycle is familiar
Others accept violence as okay
Pressure from others
Preserve abusers reputation
Religious beliefs
Social status
Security
Having hopes and dreams
Not Knowing its okay to leave
Do not be a victim either way( Murdered /Murderer) as in the link stories below :
A Deputy Attorney General Colleen Norris said " Adebamiro wanted to end the marriage, but was stuck between two cultures and two generations. One side was telling him to get a divorce. The other pushed him to stick it out.The ensuing drama was dizzying. There were trips back and forth to Nigeria. Children left with a nanny. And a post-nuptial agreement aimed at stopping the chaos".Read more at


"Nigerian men in the United States have gone berserk with rampant killing of their wives over disappointing and humiliation they suffer from NIgeria wives imported to America.The men who often sponsored their wives to nursing schools for which the women earn fat salaries after graduation cause ruckus between the couple which often end in divorce resulting into husbands giving up their life property and earnings according to the US law." [By Favour Nnabugwu - Vanguard Reporter]Read more at:
http://www.vanguardngr.com/2016/10/horror-nigerian-men-go-rampage-us-kill-wives-divorce-alimony/

Please help yourself and your loved ones by seeking counsel as if any form of abuse is not redressed, the next step of the abuser is detrimental psychologically or physically in long term to your life and children, which just might be too late ..... Seek help from organisations like RAP .... "Changing lives for good ".......Let's Reflect on Biblical Principle on abuse and how to deal with an abuser and seek help from abuse

Psalms 9:9 The LORD also will be a refuge for the oppressed, a refuge in times of trouble.

Psalms 103:6 The LORD executeth righteousness and judgment for all that are oppressed.

As the above verses indicate, we, today, are encouraged to show a abusive Brother or Sister the error of their ways. In the Old Testament, those who had the position of being the spiritual guides of the God's people likewise had an obligation to warn those who were doing wrong of the consequences that would ensue if they did not change their ways. The words are non-compromising:
Ezekiel 3:17-19 Son of man, I have made thee a watchman unto the house of Israel: therefore hear the word at my mouth, and give them warning from me.
When I say unto the wicked, Thou shalt surely die; and thou givest him not warning, nor speakest to warn the wicked from his wicked way, to save his life; the same wicked man shall die in his iniquity; but his blood will I require at thine hand.Yet if thou warn the wicked, and he turn not from his wickedness, nor from his wicked way, he shall die in his iniquity; but thou hast delivered thy soul.

The manner in which the abuser is to be admonished (i.e. the spirit in which to approach him/her) and is not to condemn the person - whom Christ has called - but to condemn the actions, and try to encourage recognition of the sin, repentance and a change in ways:
2 Thessalonians 3:15 Yet count him not as an enemy, but admonish him as a brother.

Galatians 6:1 Brethren, if a man be overtaken in a fault, ye which are spiritual, restore such an one in the spirit of meekness; considering thyself, lest thou also be tempted.

Jesus laid out a clear and simple procedure to follow in the event of dealing with an erring brother (or sister!):
Mat. 18:15-17 Moreover if thy brother shall trespass against thee, go and tell him his fault between thee and him alone: if he shall hear thee, thou hast gained thy brother.But if he will not hear thee, then take with thee one or two more, that in the mouth of two or three witnesses every word may be established.And if he shall neglect to hear them, tell it unto the church: but if he neglect to hear the church, let him be unto thee as an heathen man and a publican.

Those, who after several admonishings still stubbornly refuse to change their ways, are to be 'marked' or 'put away' - they are to be 'shamed' to the end that they realise the seriousness of their sin and repent:
1 Corinthians 5:9-13 I wrote unto you in an epistle not to company with fornicators:Yet not altogether with the fornicators of this world, or with the covetous, or extortioners, or with idolaters; for then must ye needs go out of the world.But now I have written unto you not to keep company, if any man that is called a brother be a fornicator, or covetous, or an idolater, or a railer, or a drunkard, or an extortioner; with such an one no not to eat.For what have I to do to judge them also that are without? do not ye judge them that are within?
But them that are without God judgeth. Therefore put away from among yourselves that wicked person.

2 Thessalonians 3:6 Now we command you, brethren, in the name of our Lord Jesus Christ, that ye withdraw yourselves from every brother that walketh disorderly, and not after the tradition which he received of us.

2 Thessalonians 3:14,15 And if any man obey not our word by this epistle, note that man, and have no company with him, that he may be ashamed.
Yet count him not as an enemy, but admonish him as a brother.

Shalom with Love .......Rev Sophy Wahab(c) 01/06/17

ANOINTING

Anointing is powerful.

You can anoint by oil, Holy Spirit, and word of GOD;

Through, the blood of the Lamb.

The book of Isaiah says, by anointing of the oil;

The yoke is destroyed.

The book of Psalms says, by anointing my head with oil;

My cup runs over.

Day and night I anoint everything that concerns me, and

My family, near and far.

Anointing broke the yoke out of my family.

It works by faith and confession of the word.

The book of 1John says, with the anointing

From the holy one, we know all things.

The book of revelations says, anoint your eyes with eye salve;

That you may see.

Book of Mathew says, anoint your head;

When you fast and wash your face.

Anointing breaks the yoke.

Anointing sets you on fire through the Holy Spirit;

To speak in tongues; in understanding

Only to our FATHER in heaven.

Anointing heals us.

Anointing protects us.

Anointing blesses us.

By anointing lives are saved.

By anointing, lives are delivered.

By anointing, family are restored.

By anointing, barren have children.

By anointing, impossible is possible.

                                                            Overpowering Feeling @ 2001

 

                             Extract from POEMS OF HEALING EMOTIONS  (c) Sophy Wahab.